Five Ways To Deal With Loneliness On Valentine's Day
It's truthful and honest to feel lonely on Valentine's Day, and you don't have to apologize for it or force yourself into a self-love ritual to avoid it. You don't have to inundate yourself with questions about your emotions. Instead, acknowledge the feeling for what it is and consider how you want to respond to it.
Asking ourselves how instead of why, shifts us away from rumination and leads us toward empowerment. It allows us to think about how we want to engage with the experience of loneliness and who we want to be in the meantime.
Loneliness is a universal emotion that everyone will encounter at some point in their life even in the presence of others. Allowing ourselves to deeply experience loneliness allows us to connect to our collective human experience. The capacity to hold the feeling of loneliness while actively choosing to respond to it in a way that feels good for us, as opposed to a way that might harm us or someone else, is deeply empowering.
Many of the questions we ask ourselves about loneliness can lead to a path of painful self-loathing. However, self-loathing doesn’t always have to be harmful if done with intention and with a time limit. You can ask yourself, 'How do I want to loathe?' Do you want to loathe while having your favorite meal, chatting with a friend, or writing down your thoughts?
Giving yourself space and compassion to feel how you want to feel in a way that is safe and not harmful to yourself and others fosters greater emotional authenticity. You don't have to pressure yourself into feeling happy if that's not authentic. You have a right to feel how you feel.
Here's to embracing your emotions, meeting yourself where you are, and allowing the complexity of your feelings to unfold. Nurture yourself in a way that resonates with your inner needs. Through experiencing loneliness, we understand what we seek in connection.
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